My Dearest sister,

I know you love him so much, but please love yourself too.

I know you care so much about that man, but please care about yourself too.

Sis, I know you are willing to sacrifice a lot of things for him, but please, when will you ever prioritize yourself too?

Haven’t you heard, as it’s written,” You shall love your neighbor, “just as you love” yourself. [Matthew 22:39]. God’s order is that you love you first, before extending the same love to another person.

When i hear of a woman wanting to commit suicide because of love, all i ask is, when is this girl going to love herself first? When will she ever put herself before any man?

Men hurt, Yes, we terribly hurt women, but you have no right to think of terminating the gift that God gave you, “LIFE”, for the sake of a man! When you go into a relationship, as i always say, please don’t depend on your heart and feelings only. Take your head with you and reason out some of this things, as God leads you.

Sometimes taking a break from a relationship is better than thinking of death, to prove to someone you loved him! After you are gone, he might even pick another woman from your funeral committee, and start life again, so why think of stopping your life, because of a mere mortal man?

Let me ask you, if your man died now, will life not continue for you? Will it stop because your boyfriend is dead? Why place your life in a man who will die one day?

Why put so much of your trust and your hopes on someone made from the dust of the earth? When will you put all that hope, trust and confidence in the God who gives us all things to enjoy? Actually, it’s God who has the right man for you.

It’s God, whose gifts when given, never makes us regret but live in thanksgiving. I mean, loving hard is never bad. Caring too much is not bad, but please, please, spare a part of that love and care for yourself. Do not lose yourself to someone who is not deserving of you.

This days, we are losing a lot of our young girls because of such deep convictions and love bestowed upon unfaithful men. Many girls are either in jails for drug trafficking, not because they sold drugs, but a boyfriend took advantage of her love, and gave her a bag of sealed cocaine or this banned drugs, to go before him, and meet him in the airport, as he travels abroad. Out of love, she believed him and did as he said-as an expression of love but Loh, it was so late for her to defend herself before security men, yet her man had disappeared. A girl gave a testimony on radio sometime back, of how at 17, her man was a thug and who kept guns under her care, yet she never knew he was taking advantage of her love. When police stormed her house in search of her man, she was called an accomplice-and found guilty by the courts, and jailed for life. Here she was, not aware of the criminal activities of this man, yet the police are seeking answers from her that she cant give-because of her innocence. It took presidential mercy for her to be released, after spending 24 yrs in jail. She was jailed at 18 and God presidential pardon in her forties.. -all because of love.Just imagine!. When you love yourself, you don’t fall inlove blindly.. You go inlove with grace and prayer-with you as the priority. May God help you. God bless you

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